tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5048162996493627115.post6458761056793365252..comments2023-10-28T02:58:03.938-07:00Comments on Just Makin' It: No One Talks about It! A Commentary on Women's IssuesJanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09927639670261225414noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5048162996493627115.post-20229807640883081622012-03-01T18:04:43.818-07:002012-03-01T18:04:43.818-07:00Thank you for sharing, Trinity. I appreciate your ...Thank you for sharing, Trinity. I appreciate your words of truth and the shared frustrations. <br /><br />I have been thinking about this a lot today, and the more I think about it, the more I want to start a new series for women called "How to Handle Issues Women Face." I would like to post Do's and Don'ts on how to address a few topics such as: <br />1. Miscarriages<br />2. Postpartum Depression<br />3. Losing a child<br />4. Being Diagnosed with Cancer (or other malignant disease) <br />5. Losing a Husband (death) <br />6. Divorce (Another way of losing a husband)<br />7. Choosing a career change (or choosing to stay at home)<br />8. Having a child who is handicapped <br /><br />And more if I can think of them. <br /><br />I don't know how to handle all of these situations because I have not been in those shoes before, but I know others who have. For the sake of making sure I say and do the right things, I would like to get the conversation going. I will probably start in two weeks, so you ladies who have experienced miscarriages (I have, but my situation is a little unique), what advice can you give to others who are trying to be a comfort to you. What do they need to do? What do they need to say? What do they need to NOT do and say? <br /><br />Let's be there for each other, ladies!Janahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09927639670261225414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5048162996493627115.post-62717525268388609322012-03-01T09:49:52.285-07:002012-03-01T09:49:52.285-07:00You really hit the nail on the head with this one....You really hit the nail on the head with this one. I think in our society women are expected to be SUPER WOMAN and do it all and not let anything bother us. It's almost as if we are guilted or shamed if we aren't blissfully happy with our children or pregnancies. <br /><br />We've suffered two miscarriage one before my son and one after both left me in a very deep depression. It was hard to share with anyone, even my oldest closest friend, because as tangible as this child seemed to me it is hard to explain mourning the loss of someone others can't see. I even went to talk to someone because I could feel myself getting worse and I was told by the (male) Doctor, "Well, it's not like they said you couldn't have children." REALLY, SIR?? <br /><br />I think children and pregnancy are looked at as such a happy and wonderful time that when something before or after birth goes wrong people don't know how to handle it. I know many people MEANT WELL, but there are only so many times you can hear "Everything happens for a reason." <br /><br />Sometimes people just need to lend a sympathetic ear or pair of arms because allowing yourself to open up to a friend about problems, big or small, can be cathartic. <br /><br />Oh, wow...word vomit, sorry. <br />please don't use a red pen on my grammar :)Trinityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09675292739899419390noreply@blogger.com